Today we took Kuu for cremation. It was beautiful weather for it, a real Spring day full of bright sunshine and breezes.
The animal crematorium is only about twenty minutes drive from here and thanks to a good map we found it easily enough. It's actually a rural Buddhist temple which has had special facilites added in one area for animal funerals.
Japanese friends will have to please excuse me talking about this in some detail but the experience was so different to what happens in England that I know some Western Buddhist friends who read my 'Blog' would like me to share my impressions with them.
In Judeo-Christian theology animals are traditionally considered as being distinct from humans in the sense that they "have no soul". I could never understand how anyone could believe this and I'm sure this is changing a lot but in our culture. Nevertheless it's still not common for animals to have a funeral. There are animal crematoria but I've never used one.
Our old dog Crackers had a Buddhist ceremony and burial up at our temple in Northumerland, a place she'd visited often and really loved. Our cat Barry, who was killed on the road, was buried in our large garden which I felt was the place he loved best. As with Kuu, I recited some suitable scripture myself.
My guess is that where animals do have funerals in the West usually they will take the form of a short homily where someone will speak about what a loving pet they had been.
I haven't been to a funeral here yet for a person but I'm sure that today's cremation was very like attending one and that no big distinction is made between animals and people. And it was a much more 'hands on' ceremony than anything I've ever experienced before.
We didn't ask for sutras to be chanted so Kuu was simply placed next to the altar and we offered some incense together. After a while we moved him into the room next door which was where the incinerator was. I took him from the box we'd carried him in and laid him in the kiln carefully. Then while we offered incense again the priest closed the door and lit the furnace.
In Britain this was something that would never happen - at funerals for people there during the ceremony the coffin slides out of the chapel behind curtains and there is no contact at all with the actual process of burning.
We were shown into a waiting area with many memorials to pets where we could sit quietly toegether. After an hour we were called down to collect Kuu's bones which ad been placed in a tray on another altar. these we had to pick up with special
hashi (chopsticks) and put into a jar to bring home.
Again this was very different - in the West we usually pick up the ashes or have them delivered some days later. Also, in England the bones are ground to a powder before they are returned to us. We thanked the priest and his assistant and brought Kuu home again. Now for forty nine days he's on our home altar in the corner above the TV, next to my father's
eihei.
So, there's the whole history of our day. In some ways much more direct than what I've experienced before but it felt fine. I was reflecting driving home that now in my life I've so far said goodbye to four people and three animals that were deeply dear to me. Each time there is grief but maybe now I hope I look at what's happening more carefully.